Community Guidelines

TakeMyTroubles guidelines on using the site

TakeMyTroubles is an unmoderated forum. We review reported posts but ask you adhere to these guidelines, abide by the Terms and Conditions, maintain the spirit of TakeMyTroubles, respect another and work to keep the community safe and vibrant. These guidelines embody the essence and spirit of the TakeMyTroubles community. When you and others adhere to the guidelines, all will more likely have a safe, rewarding, and meaningful experience. These guidelines and the Terms and Conditions are subject to your use of TakeMyTroubles.

In the TakeMyTroubles community, you have anonymity. Although your posts and comments do disclose your User ID that you choose to create, TakeMyTroubles does not disclose your real identity. TakeMyTroubles does not ask for your name or address. This is opposed to most web sites and most daily interactions. The purpose of anonymity in the TakeMyTroubles community is to create a safe, judgement free environment that makes you feel comfortable to share your true feelings. Use your anonymity for good by being honest with yourself and others. Do not use your anonymity for activities or influence in conflict with the TakeMyTroubles intention and spirit. Please see the Private Policy for more information.

TakeMyTroubles is primarily for the everyday problems and troubles experienced in the western world. TakeMyTroubles is not for people to solve their addictions or mental problems requiring professional guidance.

These guidelines are common sense for respectful public behavior and what you learned in grade school.

Encouraged Behavior

Let it go. Write and send the things most bothering you. Be honest with yourself and others. Express how you truly feel. Keep your Troubles private if you wish. But others may experience similar situations and feelings as you. Therefore, sharing and gaining comments and feedback may not only help you but also help others.

Play. Help others with your honest, direct, respectful, and thoughtful feedback to their Troubles. If you have been in similar situations as some of the Troubles fellow members are experiencing, share what worked for you or didn’t work for you. Your comments should be empathetic, understanding, concise, constructive, and sincere.

Respect. The TakeMyTroubles community is diverse with people in different circumstances, beliefs, and opinions. This diversity makes participating and gaining feedback more thoughtful and interesting. The commonality among a diverse community shows us how we are alike and presents effective methods to improve our condition. Treat members with respect and you and the community will thrive. Use public appropriate language for items others will see.

Reason. When you receive feedback and comments, use your best judgement before you act. Does the comment or feedback truly have your best interest at heart? For big issues, get second and third opinions from within the TakeMyTroubles community and outside of it.

Lead. When you see good feedback and comments, rate it accordingly. Likewise, when you see rants or abuse, report it.

Get professional help. If you are experiencing thoughts or behavior relating to addiction, suicide, homicide, violence, abuse, trauma, or other serious condition, please get professional help immediately. The resource section has some suggested links.

Prohibited Behavior

No Faking. Do not make stuff up. Use your creativity for writing a short story, novel, or movie. Use your real feelings in the TakeMyTroubles community. Do not misrepresent yourself, claim false credentials or expertise.

No Names. Do not use anyone’s name. When referring to others, write my girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, partner, boss, co-worker, friend, etc.

No Obscenities. Do not use profanity or mean language. The community has people of diverse ages, backgrounds, and cultures. Communicate appropriately as you are in a public space. Vulgar, sexually explicit, insulting, belligerent, mean spirited, hateful, incendiary, and generally objectionable language is not acceptable in the public space of TakeMyTroubles. If you use such language for your Trouble, mark it private.

No Exploitation. Do not exploit. Do not provide advice or comments that is illegal, malicious, mean, or trickery. Do not provide advice or comments you would not follow. Do not proposition or ask anyone to meet or for any information that may further revile their identity or identifying information. TakeMyTroubles is an environment to improve the way one copes with and addresses personal adversity. It is not a place to solicit business or personal relationships. If you are highly knowledgeable with a particular member’s situation, you may provide a link to your website, blog, readings, or seminar - as long as it is relevant and accompanies a good effective comment.

No Illegal. Do not break the law. Do not post anything that violates the laws of your country, state, province, or city. Do not attempt to get personal identification information, steal material (copyright, trademark), or break into the site. Do not threaten, harass, impersonate, hurt others, or invade other’s privacy.

No Harm. Do not post links or addresses to sites that contain viruses, malicious programs, covertly acquire personally identifiable information, or interfere with the operation of TakeMyTroubles. Do not give advice in any way that may cause someone harm. Do not suggest, advocate, incite violence, or harmful practice in any way.

No Misuse. Do not create multiple accounts. Do not use as your soapbox. Do not post in the wrong language, the same item multiple times, or incomprehensible language. Do not abuse features like reporting abuse to target others, to squelch opinions different than your own.

No Stupidity. Don’t be stupid. If someone suggests you, for example “jump off a bridge” (which they wouldn’t because that would violate these guidelines), don’t do it. Thoughtfully consider the advice, comments, feedback you are given before you act or react. For big issues, get second and third opinions from within the TakeMyTroubles community and outside of it.

Age. Children under the age of 14 are prohibited from establishing a membership and entering and commenting on Troubles as well as communicating with any TakeMyTrouble member.